Healing and restoration in relationship with daughters

Good morning and blessings to all. My prayer request today is for the restoration of my relationship with my daughters. They both are struggling with their mental health and have made decision that are affecting their growth in life. I had to surrender the control I thought I had and God showed me how to set boundaries in order to save my mental health. I believe I’m in the meantime where I’m just waiting for God to do his work in all of us but it I’m struggling with guilt, embarrassment and doubts about their future. They are 33 and 29 and both of them smoke weed multiple times a day. They are not holding down jobs and just are not where I expected them to be at this stage in life. I find I’m so fixated on their mental and spiritual growth that I neglect my own. I want to fix them but I know that isn’t my job. I always surrender them back to God but certain situations trigger what I’m grieving. The relationship I thought we’ve have. I just feel stuck but also realize it’s Gods timing not mine. My deepest heart’s desire is for my girls to be healthy and well and able to live life with God as their Center.
There is so much more and I prayer I’ll get the chance to also share how God has guided me through this journey